how many of you are of the belief that men should be strong and silent?
it's 2 hands up for me - in the past I thought it was fine for guys to be chatty, but further interaction (read: quarreling) with my father has changed this notion. stupid me.
1. when I talk to him he doesn't reply, or pretend that he doesn't hear it. BUT, looks can be deceiving, and it's something that I've yet to guard myself against. the thing is, he's actually all ears, waiting to spread whatever I've just said to my aunts, especially my 2nd and 4th aunt, because to him, their opinion is better and wiser than what any philosopher could have come up with.
this habit is damn irritating I swear. for instance, I'm contemplating a decision. so I've YET to decide. I discuss it with him and I say "I'll tell mom myself when I have decided". no. big mouth agrees to keep his trap shut but the next minute, I'll be receiving phone calls from my mom by the dozen. so yes, surprises don't work in my house.
or, which is the most recent. I was talking to my mom and I mentioned that I received a job offer. big ears overhears cause I didn't tell him, so he just gets the scanty details, and he conveys all these to my 4th aunt. and I find out because my aunt comes smsing me over something which of course I wouldn't have told her about saying that she'll be "happy to offer me a 2nd opinion should I need any".
ZzzZ.
2. my dad nags. non. stop. and I mean non stop. even when there's nobody around to hear. he just launches into the same old tirade that I've been hearing for the past 23 years, just that perhaps for my first 5 years I couldn't comprehend what he was saying. when I could, I realised his speech consisted mainly of words like "untidy..dirty..and dust". and seriously I thought I was already quite an advocate of cleanliness. boy, I bet I could be poster girl for some cleanliness campaign but my dad just takes the cake. you know how little tots crawl around before they can walk? when I was young, I didn't crawl much because according to my dad, crawling on the floor is dirty. I mean when you're outside yeah la but at home??? so I spent the majority of my...."crawling months" lol sitting on a high chair -_- or being carried around, which isn't too bad, haha.
but I digress, yeah. men shouldn't nag, it's really unbecoming. women, still not too bad. but in a guy, it's terrible. especially fathers. cause all other fathers that I've seen, like my friends' dads are strong and silent. haha. they only open their mouths for important things. like giving allowance. you know? "what is it now, how much do you want?" ahhhh..music to the ears, strangely, that role goes to my grandmother, who luckily, is a very dear lady.
3. dumb comments which don't make any sense at all. seriously. I know my blog is full of posts like how my parents don't love me. it's fine I've gotten over it but I just gotta grumble once in a while. just last week, I saw 2 cockroaches in my bro's room. my dad sleeps with my bro so I thought I'd be nice and tell him. the conversation went like that, I'm not sure if it counts as a conversation because the last time I checked, a convo requires listening and understanding, not complete distortion of facts
me: I saw 2 cockroaches running around yesterday, under the bed so you might wanna just check...
dad: that's because you put your things in his room
(wtf???? I know he's completely biased against me but this is..........)
but nvm..I still tried one more time
me: no....I only placed my stuff in that corner cos I'm redoing my room, the cockroaches came from under the bed
dad: cos you put your bedsheets and blankets in that corner, soft and comfortable, they like to sleep there..
and he meant every single word of it, not jokingly. so we had a huge quarrel over that. I'm so sick of talking to him. pfft.
3 am. time for some mario now. guess the mother post will be part 2. heh
new furniture coming tmr!!! can't wait (:
